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Facts

You may have the perfect relationship. But probably someone you know doesn’t. Check out the real facts of teen dating abuse here. Read More »

Warning Signs

Abuse escalates. Know the signs from early warnings to the lethal threats. It could save a life. Read More »

For Parents

DASH is for Parents: Articles and resources designed to keep you up to date with your teen, to keep you tech savvy, and to help you stay involved. Read More »

For Friends

DASH is for friends! Do you suspect your friend is in an abusive relationship. You CAN help. Read More »

For Guys

DASH is for guys. Be part of the solution. Get the facts and be a great role model for the people in YOUR life. Read More »

 

Creating a safety plan is vital

Another teenage girl has lost her life due to teen dating abuse. She broke up with her boyfriend two weeks ago and they met at a friend’s house to talk about their relationship. She probably thought she was safe, but Rachael Jean Wiest was choked to death by her ex-boyfriend. Click here to read her story.

Creating a safety plan for yourself after breaking off an abusive relationship is vitally important. You may think that you are safe once you have left the relationship, but statistically you are 75% more likely to be killed during this time.

Danger increases when you attempt to end an abusive relationship. This is the MOST dangerous time for you. You must create a safety plan for yourself. You must prepare yourself. Take control over what you can. Be prepared, and make careful plans. Involve as many people as possible to support you.

  • You may need to inform your school or place of work so that a safety plan can be implemented with their support. Talk to your school counselor, if you do not get support, you may need to contact the police or the state domestic violence hotline. Do not be afraid to ask for support.
  • Avoid being alone with the abuser. This may not be easy, but you must take the control out of his hands. Do not get in his car or go for a walk or go away to talk privately. He wants to isolate you. If he gets you alone, he can take advantage.
  • You must cut off ALL contact. Do not talk to his friends without an adult present. Do not fall for suicide threats or promises that his behavior will change.
  • Change your email address, cell phone number and other contact information (Facebook, MySpace etc.).
  • Tell someone where you are going and when you expect to be back. If not a parent, then a trusted friend who will know to alert an adult if you are not in contact.
  • Always have your cell phone and extra money with you. In the old days it was called “mad money” – if you got mad at your date you could always get a taxi home or call home. Times have changed, but common sense hasn’t.
  • Memorize important phone numbers. Your phone may be taken away from you by an abuser, so you must know some numbers to call in case you are able to escape or get to a phone.
  • Keep a log of abusive or alarming behavior. Mark the time, date, place and as much information as you can. You may need to prove abusive behaviors or patterns to authorities. For example: 3/4/09 – home – Boyfriend called my cell phone 15 times in 20 minutes. Left threatening voice messages.
  • Save all threatening voice mail, email, or text messages. Print out emails and put them in a safe place. You will need evidence.
  • Keep an extra set of house and car keys in a safe, hidden place or with someone you can trust. An abuser may take your keys away from you in order to isolate you.
  • Plan a safe place to go in advance. Choose a place (your place of worship, a public place where you can alert authorities) that your partner does not know about or would not think to look for you. You know he’ll look for you at home or school. Going to your best friend’s house may put her in danger, too.
  • Make up a code word or sign so a friend or family member will know you are in danger. Remember when you were in elementary school and your mom or dad gave you a secret pass word that was used when a neighbor or friend was to get you from school or in an emergency? This is the same idea.
  • Never go to your partner’s home alone, especially if you’ve already broken up. Bring at least two friends or adults. Do not go to “pick up your stuff” by yourself – even if his family is at home. Shev’s killer did it while his father and grandparents were upstairs. Kari Ann Gorman’s killer did it while his mother was home.

Special thanks to Jenniferann.org in memory of Jennifer Ann Crecente for providing this important information on creating a safety plan.

If you need help call loveisrespect.org at 1-866-331-9474 to speak with a trained counselor.

 

 

 

 

 

another year…

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Another year has passed, but you’re in our thoughts and hearts every single day, Siobhan.

THANK You!!! DASH at Dulles 2015

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THANK YOU!! Once again, our loyal supporters came through and walked their way to almost $750 in donations to DASH during our 5th Annual DASH at Dulles 5k Mall Walk. We were so happy to have over 30 participants and to include Lynne and Andy Russell via Skype from sunny France.

Special thanks to Dulles Town Center and its staff for always being so accommodating, especially with the change in dates due to the inclement weather.

We can’t do our important work educating teens, their parents and friends about teen dating abuse without you! Always remembering you, Siobhan.

New date! 5th Annual DASH at DULLES – March 8, 2015

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We have a new date for DASH at Dulles!! It’s Sunday, March 8! You’ll get an extra hour of sleep because we “spring ahead” the clocks on Saturday night. Pre-registration is still open at www.datingabusestopshere.com/donatesponsor. We hope you can join us! More details below.

Mark your calendars for Sunday, March 8, 2015, for our 5th Annual DASH at DULLES 5K mall walk. Join us to remember Siobhan and mark National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention month.  All proceeds benefit DASH!!

The event:

Location – Dulles Town Center, 21100 Dulles Town Circle, Dulles, VA 20166

Registration**- 8:30 am

Walk: 9:00 am – 10:00 am

**On the day (cash or check only)- $15   (under 14 free)

Pre-register online at www.datingabusestopshere.com/donatesponsor- $12.50