On January 29, 2016, President Obama signed a proclamation declaring February 2016 as National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention month. You can help make a difference by sharing the DASH website and Facebook page with family, friends, teachers, counselors and schools. Together we can help teens recognize the signs of teen dating abuse and learn what makes a healthy relationship. This month and throughout the coming year let’s let everyone know that Dating Abuse Stops Here.
Click here to read the proclamation.
On the eve of Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention month, we salute Brittaney Shane, who realized that her ex-boyfriend had been emotionally abusive to her and found the strength to love herself again.
Her story has been going viral on Facebook after she wrote this compelling post:
“You always told me I didn’t look good with long hair and that you preferred girls with short hair. So I kept my hair cut above my shoulders at all times. You laughed at me and told me I looked ridiculous when I dyed my hair red when we were together. So a week later I dyed it back blonde.”
“You would always point out if I was wearing too much makeup. (Winged eyeliner and mascara most of the time) So I just stopped wearing it. You told me tattoos and piercings were tacky and ugly. And would try to take out my belly button ring every time you saw it. So I took out my piercings and didn’t get any more tattoos.
You pointed out my stretch marks every chance you got. So I did my best to keep them hidden.”
“You pointed out every time I looked like I had gained weight. So I started eating less every day. You pointed out every single flaw I had. So I lost every bit of confidence I had.
I did everything I could to be what you wanted. I did everything you told me to do. It still wasn’t good enough. You left me for a younger prettier girl. Someone you could mold and shape into what you wanted. Like you tried to do with me. And up until a few months ago I blamed myself for everything that happened. You blamed me too.
But finally I started to see the truth.”
“You weren’t out of my league. I was out of yours. I wasn’t the one who wasn’t good enough for you.
You were the one who wasn’t good enough for me. You couldn’t accept me for who I was. When I took you the way you were.”
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Domestic violence/dating abuse is not only directed toward women. Many men are in abusive relationships and they may feel they have nowhere to turn. Men/teens can be abused by a partner? YES! What can a partner do to “abuse” a guy? Men/teens can be abused by a female or male partner physically, emotionally and sexually. Aren’t men always the abuser? NO!
According to 2013 US Department of Justice (DOJ) reports 15% of men were abused by a partner. Approximately 1.3 million women and 835,000 men are physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually in the United States. In a 2012 survey, the DOJ National Crime Victimization Survey showed that of 40,000 households surveyed, 38% of rape and sexual violence incidents were against men.*
Male Abuse Awareness week, December 1-8 was founded by The P. Luna Foundation in 2008. Most men feel ashamed to admit that they are being abused by a partner; Help 4 Guys makes it their mission to encourage more men/teens/boys to seek help in dealing with their abusive situation. Please visit their website www.help4guys.org for information and resources specific to male abuse survivors.