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You may have the perfect relationship. But probably someone you know doesn’t. Check out the real facts of teen dating abuse here. Read More »

Warning Signs

Abuse escalates. Know the signs from early warnings to the lethal threats. It could save a life. Read More »

For Parents

DASH is for Parents: Articles and resources designed to keep you up to date with your teen, to keep you tech savvy, and to help you stay involved. Read More »

For Friends

DASH is for friends! Do you suspect your friend is in an abusive relationship. You CAN help. Read More »

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DASH is for guys. Be part of the solution. Get the facts and be a great role model for the people in YOUR life. Read More »

 

Warning Signs – Violent Behavior

DASH’s early warning signs are meant to guide you in determining whether your relationship is healthy. In this series of articles, we will explore each warning sign in more depth so that you will have a better idea about what each sign means and if you need to address a problem in your relationship.

The eighth sign of teen dating abuse is:

A history of violent behavior

Like our sixth sign, a history of discipline problems (bad boy), a history of violent behavior should be a red flag in any type of relationship. A person who uses violence in trying to solve problems is someone who should be avoided. The violence may not even be physical; it could be yelling and screaming, throwing things, punching the wall, or slamming doors. Everyone loses his/her temper once in a while, but it is the pattern of behavior that is the key. If your partner continually loses his/her temper or is known to be violent when confronted with problems or difficult situations you must be willing to step back and assess your relationship.

Did your partner have a reputation for violent behavior before you began dating? Was he/she considered a rebel or known for rebellious behavior? As exciting as it seems to be involved with someone who is a”bad boy”‘ or girl do not take their reputation for violence lightly. Someone who has been violent with others will likely be violent with you.

No New Trial for Huguely

A judge has denied George Huguely the re-trial requested by his defense team during a hearing on August 22, 2012, the Associated Press reported. The former University of Virginia lacrosse player was convicted in February of the beating death of his ex-girlfriend Yeardley Love in May 2010. Huguely’s lawyers filed a motion for a new trial based on their belief that the jury should have been sequestered and the illness of one of the attorneys called for a continuance or delay of the trial. Charlottesville Circuit Judge Edward Hogshire determined that there was enough evidence against Huguely to support his conviction on the murder charge. Huguely will be sentenced on August 30th.

Read more about the case at http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/former-uva-lacrosse-player-convicted-in-ex-girlfriends-slaying-seeking-new-trial/2012/08/22/37b77422-ec23-11e1-866f-60a00f604425_story.html?hpid=z8

Strangulation now a felony in Virginia

Strangulation is one of the lethal warning signs in teen dating abuse and in domestic violence. As of July 1, 2012, in the State of Virginia attempting to strangle someone is a class 6 felony. The new law, which began as bill HB752 / SB459 from Del. Benjamin Clin (R-24th District) and Sen. Mark Herring (D-33rd District) makes strangulation offenses punishable as a Class 6 Felony with up to 5 years in prison and a $2,500 fine. In addition, the new law applies to those in dating relationships rather than just those in households.

Before this law was enacted, strangulation was a misdemeanor like assault, battery or injury to a person. According to the domestic violence group Safe Harbor Shelter:

Strangulation is a common form of domestic violence

  • victims can lose consciousness within 10 seconds;
  • brain death can begin in 4-5 minutes;
  • short- and long-term physical, psychological and neurological health effects can occur;
  • accounts for 10% of violent deaths in US and most victims are women
  • injuries (including fatal injuries) can be sustained even several hours after an attack

School counselors lack training in teen dating violence

A nation-wide assessment of school counselors concludes that most do not have the proper training to help victims of teen dating violence. The August 2012 issue of  Pediatrics, the Official Journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics, published the study which looked at the knowledge, training, perceptions, and practices of school counselors in dealing with teen dating violence incidents (described in the report as Adolescent Dating Violence ADV).

A questionnaire was sent to 550 members of the American School Counselors Association. From the 305 responses (58%), the report found:

“A majority of the school counselors reported that they did not have a protocol in their schools to respond to an incident of ADV (81.3%). Additionally, the majority (90%) of counselors reported that in the past 2 years, training to assist survivors of teen dating abuse has not been provided to personnel in their schools, their school did not conduct periodic student surveys that include questions on teen dating abuse behaviors (83%), and their school did not have a committee that meets periodically to address health and safety issues that include teen dating abuse (76%).”