Category Archives: For Guys
Domestic violence/dating abuse is not only directed toward women. Many men are in abusive relationships and they may feel they have nowhere to turn. Men/teens can be abused by a partner? YES! What can a partner do to “abuse” a guy? Men/teens can be abused by a female or male partner physically, emotionally and sexually. Aren’t men always the abuser? NO!
According to 2013 US Department of Justice (DOJ) reports 15% of men were abused by a partner. Approximately 1.3 million women and 835,000 men are physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually in the United States. In a 2012 survey, the DOJ National Crime Victimization Survey showed that of 40,000 households surveyed, 38% of rape and sexual violence incidents were against men.*
Male Abuse Awareness week, December 1-8 was founded by The P. Luna Foundation in 2008. Most men feel ashamed to admit that they are being abused by a partner; Help 4 Guys makes it their mission to encourage more men/teens/boys to seek help in dealing with their abusive situation. Please visit their website www.help4guys.org for information and resources specific to male abuse survivors.
A CALL TO MEN is a leading national men’s organization addressing domestic and sexual violence prevention and the promotion of healthy manhood. The group is committed to maintaining strong partnerships with women’s organizations already doing this important work. We help to organize communities in order to raise awareness and get men involved in this effort.
By John Stipa – Dad
- Be on time. Be presentable. You can fight this, but what’s the point?
- RING THE DOORBELL. Curbside pick-up is for fast food, not the girl of your dreams.
- Talk to the parents/guardians – especially her father. He was once in your shoes.
- Details: Confirm where you are going, what you’ll be doing and by what time she will be home. Ask for the curfew.
- Be prepared. Plenty of gas, money, directions. Carry your cell phone if plans change or you need to call home. Her parents want to know you’re responsible. So does she. So do your parents.
Ask yourself these important questions when you think about your relationship. Your honest answers can help you determine if your relationship is healthy or if it is a cause for concern.
- Do you see things from each others’ point of view?
- Do you think that your partner is the one that needs to change?
- Do you communicate your needs clearly?
- Are there things that you, yourself, would like to change?
- Can you find a voice for changes that will be met with respect?
- Do you treat your partner they way you like to be treated?