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Survey: 25% were threatened or harassed using technology

A survey of 5, 647 middle school students in New York, New Jersey and Pennsylvania by the Journal of Youth and Adolescence shows that more than 25% of those dating said they were harassed or threatened by their partners in texts or through online contact. The report published in February stated that technology was not the cause of teen dating abuse, but it gave access to abusers 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

“The technology opens up a wide avenue for someone who wants to be abusive toward their partner,” said Janine Zweig, lead author and researcher at the Urban Institute. “It’s another tool abusers can use to be relentless.”

“The survey is important in that it provides hard data to confirm what we already know — that domestic violence and dating violence occur where we live our lives,” said Cindy Southworth, founder of the Safety Net Project on technology at the National Network to End Domestic Violence. “These days, the digital world is our real world, and for teens even more so.”

Read the Washington Post article at http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/education/study-finds-teenagers-in-relationships-are-threatened-online-or-in-texts/2013/02/21/df1931b8-7c2b-11e2-9a75-dab0201670da_story.html.

Olympian joins Don’t Look Away campaign

Gold medal gymnast Jordyn Wieber has teamed with Mary Kay to support the “Don’t Look Away” campaign. By texting “love is” to 77054, teens can get information and support from a trained peer advocate.

“I feel very strongly about because I have two sisters of my own. And I have fans and friends and teammates. So if I can prevent even one person from having to go through this, then I would love to do that,” Wieber said.

Click here to read the article by Greg Bowman.

(Photo by EMMANUEL DUNAND/AFP/GettyImages)

Healthy Relationships – Trust

In our new series of articles, we’ll focus on what makes a healthy relationship.  A healthy relationship is suppose to make you happy, give you confidence in yourself and help you understand more about yourself.  A key component to a healthy relationship is trust.

Trust is having confidence that what you and your partner say to one another and expect from one another is the truth. If you tell your partner that you’ll be at the mall, he/she should be able to trust that you are where you say you are without needing to check up on you. If your partner assures you that someone he/she has been talking to is simply a friend and not a romantic rival you should be able to trust that what they say is true. However, trust is not automatic; trust must be earned.

Trust is

being honest with each other

believing what your partner says without needing to check up on them

allowing your partner space within your relationship (see Healthy Relationships – Giving Each Other Space)

respecting each others’ privacy

being able to depend on each other

keeping your promises – this does not mean promising to keep secrets about abusive or unhealthy behavior – “promise not to tell anyone that I hit you” or “don’t tell anyone that I (stole, did drugs, got drunk, etc.)”

supporting each other’s choices

embracing and respecting each other’s differences

admitting when you are wrong

Trust is not

using controlling or abusive behavior (see Warning Signs and Warning Signs in Depth)

accepting controlling or abusive behavior (see Warning Signs and Warning Signs in Depth)

checking up on your partner all the time via texting, calling or stalking whether in person, through friends or with social media

giving your partner your private information such as ID numbers, Social Security numbers, passwords to your phone, email, or social media

allowing your partner to lie or cheat continually

giving up your favorite activities or hobbies to spend more time with your partner (see Warning Signs – Control)

changing your opinions or ideas to please your partner

If you think your relationship is unhealthy you may wish to read our series  Warning Signs In Depth. Remember: you are not alone. You may not know how to get help. You may be afraid to leave the situation. Abusers know that they can control you emotionally because no one wants to admit that someone else has treated them so poorly. Do not be ashamed. Dating abuse is not your fault. Recognize the signs of dating abuse and get help if your relationship exhibits any of these characteristics. You don’t have to handle this alone. Sharing can save your life. For confidential help, please call the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline: 1-866-331-9474.

loveisrespect.org, a collaboration of Break the Cycle and the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline, can now answer your questions and concerns via text message. Simply text “Love Is” to 77054 for confidential help. Normal texting fees apply.

No More Day March 13, 2013

March 13, 2013 is NO MORE Day, the public launch of the country’s first unifying awareness symbol for domestic violence and sexual assault. Join the movement and show the world why you say, “NO MORE” : http://nomore.org/

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From the No More website: “The NO MORE symbol has been in the making since 2009. It was developed because despite the significant progress that has been made in the visibility of domestic violence and sexual assault, these problems effecting millions remain hidden and on the margins of public concern. Hundreds of representatives from the domestic violence and sexual assault prevention field came together and agreed that a new, overarching symbol, uniting all people working to end these problems, could have a dramatic impact on the public’s awareness.

The signature blue vanishing point originated from the concept of a zero – as in zero incidences of domestic violence and sexual assault. It was inspired by Christine Mau, a survivor of domestic violence and sexual abuse who is now the Director of European Designs at Kimberly-Clark. The symbol was designed by Sterling Brands, and focus group tested with diverse audiences across the country who agreed that the symbol was memorable, needed and important.”