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DASH has a new look!!

Welcome to the newly updated website of Dating Abuse Stops Here! All the facts, resources and articles are still here with new features! The site is easier to navigate. You’ll be able to add your comments and share articles with your friends. We’ll be able to update more often with breaking news and events. Thank you to our friends at Captus Communications, especially Hassan Elhassan, for their help in re-creating our vision.

Warning signs – Threatens You

DASH’s early warning signs are meant to guide you in determining whether your relationship is healthy. In this series of articles, we will explore each warning sign in more depth so that you will have a better idea about what each sign means and if you need to address a problem in your relationship. Older articles can be found in our News section.

Our fifth early warning sign of abuse is:

Threatens or Intimidates You

You may think that if your partner threatens you, he/she doesn’t really mean it. You may think that they were acting out in the heat of the moment. It’s only talk. Maybe your partner has never followed through with a threat. Unfortunately, it is only a matter of time before something does happen. Threatening and intimidating you is another form of control.

You certainly know what a threat is, but you may not know what intimidation means. Webster’s online dictionary (www.merriam-webster.com) defines to intimidate as:

to make timid or fearful : frighten; especially : to compel or deter by or as if by threats.

Intimidation forces you to change your behavior, opinions or interests through fear. Fear of losing the abuser’s “love”, fear of pain from physical abuse, fear of harm to your family, friends or pets makes you accept the abuser’s behavior. If a partner is using fear to control you, it isn’t love.

Threats can range from the simple to the deadly serious: I won’t call you; I’ll break up with you; I’ll mess with your car; I’ll hurt your dog; I’ll hurt your family; I’ll kill you. An abuser will not just threaten you or your stuff. Your family, friends, and pets are fair game in an abuser’s mind because an abuser knows that you will do anything to keep your loved ones safe, even at the risk of your own life.

Day one NY Fact or Fiction PSA

Day One NY, is New York City’s only organization dedicated to educating and advocating for young people at risk of or experiencing dating violence. We applaud their efforts! Day One has created several public service announcements on teen dating abuse. Watch the most recent example Fact or Fiction: Anyone Can Experience Dating Violence

Former Nickelodeon Actor makes film about teen dating abuse

Jordan Coleman, 16, once the voice of Tyrone, the moose, on the hit show The Backyardigans, has written and directed a new film on teen dating violence called Payin’ the Price. Awarded the 2011 HBO Best Feature Film at the Martha’s Vineyard African-American Film Festival, it is being shown during Coleman’s Speak Up & Get Out film tour. National Public Radio’s Michel Martin interviewed the young filmmaker. Listen to the interview at http://www.npr.org/2012/03/01/147729668/former-nickelodeon-star-tackles-teen-dating-violence. Check out information about the film and it’s director at http://www.payintheprice.com.