Monthly Archives: October 2012

DASH says Thank You!

A sincere thank you to all our DASH bakers and volunteers who made our bake sale weekends a success! We couldn’t have done it without you and we appreciate your continued support.

Donuts for DASH – again!

Once again, we’re hosting a Donuts for DASH event to raise awareness and funds for our work. Come visit us this Saturday, October 27, 2012 at the Franklin Farm Giant for a bake sale! Bring your appetite, talk to our teen ambassadors about DASH and help us combat teen dating abuse in our community.

When: October 27, 2012 11am-3pm

Where: Franklin Farm Giant, 13330 Franklin Farm Rd., Herndon, VA 20171


Warning Signs – Negative Emotions

DASH’s early warning signs are meant to guide you in determining whether your relationship is healthy. In this series of articles, we will explore each warning sign in more depth so that you will have a better idea about what each sign means and if you need to address a problem in your relationship.

Our tenth early warning sign of teen dating abuse is:

Has trouble controlling negative emotions.

As all the other signs we’ve highlighted build on one another they add up to this final early warning sign.   Anger, frustration, sadness, and jealousy are all normal emotions. How a person reacts to these emotions is important in determining if they are out of control. Most of us know how to calm ourselves down if we become angry or frustrated without resorting to violence. We may yell or stomp around, but we don’t hit someone or try to injure someone by throwing things. We may walk away from the situation or change the conversation to help diffuse the emotions.  A person who cannot control his/her emotions, especially emotions that arise from anger, jealousy or fear, may lash out in response. If you are dating someone who reacts negatively to even the slightest emotional upset you become the target for your partner’s anger even if you aren’t involved.

Remembering Alexandra Kogut

Just as we have begun to recover from the case of Yeardley Love another young college student has been murdered by her boyfriend. This time, 18-year-old Alexandra Kogut was found beaten to death in her dorm room at the State University of New York at Brockport on September 29, 2012. Police arrested her boyfriend hours later at a New York Thruway rest stop.  Clayton Whittemore, 21, claimed to police that he and Alexandra got into a shoving match and that he “just snapped.”  According to the police report released Oct. 17, Whittemore beat Alexandra, first with his fists and then to death with a curling iron when her breathing sounded bad because he loved her and did not want her to suffer. He has plead not guilty; his arraignment on murder charges is Oct. 25.